I talk to so many single women about their relationship challenges, and what I’ve gathered most times is the fact that they don’t feel a sense of self-worth. In essence, they don’t feel worthy of love. I always share with them how important it is to increase their self-worth.
So if you've been grappling with thoughts of whether you are worthy of love, take a few minutes and make a list of 10 things that you love about yourself. More than likely those things are what your partner will love about you as well. Take some time and reflect on the qualities or characteristics you've written down.
Then envision yourself in a healthy relationship, bringing all your value and worth which will be a substantial contribution to building a solid foundation from the jump start.
It is crucial that you fully embrace the value you bring to a relationship. This helps to avoid compromising who you are just to be with someone, especially when he doesn't deserve you.
What’s been keeping you from feeling completely, totally, and unapologetically worthy of love? So many women would answer that question with simple things like...Oh I want to lose 10 pounds, or I need to make more money or I need to upgrade my wardrobe, whatever reasons they give themselves right?
The reality though is that there will always be 10 more pounds to lose, more money to make, a better wardrobe to buy and so when you continually pursue these things, you never quite get to a place of stability in your life.
As human beings we are all worthy of love because we were created in the image of God. You know as a Relationship Coach, I’ve learned that the best place to come from is a place of love.
So when you see someone going through a difficult time and you care about them, go ahead and offer them love, encouragement and support. You’ll be amazed at just how much this will show them they are in fact worthy of love. At the same time, it will remind you of the caring individual that you are. This also increases your self-worth in the process.
Increase Your Self-Esteem and Self Confidence!
For any woman reading this, and who is having serious doubts about your self-worth, I want you to do the following things which will help increase your self-worth which is already within you and can be easily harnessed.
♦Find ways to increase your self-confidence which in turn increases your feelings of worthiness.
♦Do something for yourself every single day. Ladies, this may be some alone time away from the kids.
♦Learn a new skill or take up something you’ve always wanted to and stick with it. The power of technology allows for that right from the comfort of your home.
♦Speak up for yourself in every area of your life, this might be hard to do at first but the first time you do it will be immense and if you continue to do so, your self esteem and feelings of self worth will soar.
♦At the end of each day before falling asleep, write down or just say something you feel proud about, whether it happened on that day or the previous day.
♦Start changing your thinking to be more optimistic about yourself, instead of "…I can’t do that…." say .."I’ve never tried it, but I’ll give it a shot…"
♦Face your fears. Nothing will send your self esteem soaring more so than facing your fears and eventually conquering them.
Believe in Yourself and Know Your Value!
Remember, you are worthy! You're worthy of love; you are worthy of having a loving relationship; you're worthy of being respected; you are worthy of having a trustworthy partner; you're worthy of having a partner that appreciates you; you are worthy of having a long lasting and fulfilling relationship and so much more.
So Ladies, I want you to write down the words “I am Worthy”, whether on a post-it note, or a small sheet of paper and put it in a place where you’ll see it every single day. And say it out loud every single day, because the more you say it, the more you’ll believe it and the more you believe it, the more it will manifest in your life. You have to say it, own it, believe it and manifest it.